The Vision
A brotherhood of married Jewish men from all walks of life—religious and secular, Sephardi and Ashkenazi, Israeli and Chutzniks, Sabras and Olim, newlyweds and seasoned husbands—united by one common denominator: marriage to a Jewish woman.
We all know that a successful life and a thriving society are built on strong marriages and our ability to be successful husbands. We also know the opposite is true. Yet, many of us feel alone in this pursuit. Marriage is not easy—it’s a constantly moving target that requires ongoing calibration and recalibration through every phase of marriage and every stage of a woman’s life.
SBB is a brotherhood of married Jewish men dedicated to supporting each other in becoming better husbands. We provide structure, education, accountability, and community to ensure that no man has to navigate this journey alone.
החזון
אחווה של גברים יהודים נשואים מכל תחומי החיים – דתיים וחילוניים, ספרדים ואשכנזים, ישראלים ותושבי חו
צברים ועולים, נשואים טריים ובעלי ניסיון – כולם מאוחדים על ידי מכנה משותף אחד: נשואים לאישה יהודייה.
כולנו יודעים שחיים מוצלחים וחברה משגשגת מבוססים על נישואים חזקים ועל היכולת שלנו להיות בעלים טובים.
אנו גם יודעים שההפך נכון. ובכל זאת, רבים מאיתנו מרגישים לבד במסע הזה. חיים הנישואים אינם קלים – והם כמו
מטרה נעה שדורשת התאמה מתמדת מחדש בכל שלב של הנישואים ובכל תקופה בחייה של אישה.
SBB היא אחווה של גברים יהודים נשואים המחויבים לעזור זה לזה להפוך ולהיות בעלים טובים יותר. אנו מספקים
מבנה, חינוך, אחריות וקהילה כדי שאף גבר לא יצטרך לנווט את הדרך הזו לבד.
From the Founder’s Desk
Being a member of SBB is a privilege and an honour. There is no barrier to entry other then being a married Jewish man. There are however no free rides in SBB; every member is expected to keep his commitment to being the best husband he can be. This includes participating fully in all events, attending all meetings, doing the daily tasks, not hiding out, being held accountable and holding other men accountable. There are no excuses for not doing the tasks, joining these meetings, attending the retreats and participating in the conventions.
מדבריו של המייסד
להיות חבר ב-SBB הוא זכות וכבוד. אין כל מחסום כניסה מלבד היותך גבר יהודי נשוי.
עם זאת, אין נסיעות חינם בSBB; מכל חבר מצופה לעמוד במחויבותו להיות הבעל הטוב ביותר שהוא יכול להיות.
הדבר כולל השתתפות מלאה בכל האירועים, נוכחות בכל המפגשים, ביצוע המשימות היומיות, אי-התחמקות, לקיחת
אחריות אישית והחזקת גברים אחרים באחריות.
אין תירוצים לאי-ביצוע המשימות, אי-השתתפות במפגשים, הימנעות מההשתתפות בריטריטים או בכנסים
Our Founder
My name is Rabbi Aryeh Pamensky
I am the founder of The Shalom Bayit Brotherhood, a global grassroots movement dedicated to helping Jewish men prioritize and fulfill their commitment to be the best husbands they can be.
I created The Pamensky Relationship Institute over 25 year ago, which has been dedicated to help couples turn good marriages into great relationships. I developed the “How To Make A Good Marriage Great” seminar which was presented to over 20,000 people on 5 continents. This led me to open a marriage counselling practice, where I guided couples to live a more peaceful, passionate and vibrant life together. I founded HappyWife.com, to create an online platform to help disseminate the strategies for great marriages to a wider audience.
For the last 18 years, I have been working as a performance coach for leading hedge fund managers in New York, Toronto, Miami and now Israel. Pamensky Coaching Inc. is a boutique coaching shop focused on top down leadership coaching for hedge fund managers, CEO’s and entrepreneurs.
I am also a founding member of TBJM (Team Building for Jewish Men), a Toronto based program for Jewish men to support each other in achieving their life goals which has impacted hundreds of men.
I was born in South Africa, and moved with my family to Canada when I was 10 years old. When I was 20 years old, I studied in Israel in a Yeshiva for 10 years, receiving my Rabbinic Ordination from the Chief Rabbi of Jerusalem. I met my wife in Jerusalem and we got married in 1990 and spent the first 5 years of our marriage living in Israel. We moved back to Toronto in 1995 where we raised our beautiful family, and after nearly 30 years, we have returned to live in Israel.
I have been married for almost 35 years, and I am proud father of eight and grandfather to many, and I understand firsthand that being a great husband requires commitment, constant growth, and a strong support system. Through SBB, I have created a structured brotherhood where Jewish men from all backgrounds hold each other accountable, learn practical strategies, and work together to build successful marriages. SBB provides education, structure, and community, ensuring that no Jewish husband has to navigate the challenges of marriage alone.
